Preparing for Family Dispute Resolution
Engaging in the Family Dispute Resolution process can feel foreign and daunting if you have recently separated or have reached a roadblock in your co-parenting journey. It is designed to help parents work collaboratively and to assist parties to communicate their needs effectively in the hope of reaching a negotiated agreement. It can be a stressful process but taking some key steps beforehand can help you feel more confident and prepared.
1. Take time to understand the FDR process, what to expect during FDR, how it works and what outcomes might be possible. You can research the process online or contact a Family Dispute Resolution Practitioner to assess whether this is the right process for you prior to engaging their services.
2. Clarify your goals – what you are hoping to achieve through FDR and what outcomes you are willing to accept. This can help you communicate your needs effectively and stay focussed during the process.
3. Identify potential solutions and consider different options for resolving the dispute – be willing to compromise and think about what solutions would be acceptable to both parties. Family Dispute Resolution is only effective when there is a degree of compromise, negotiability, and respect for each other’s views.
4. FDR is all about communication. Practice active listening, speaking clearly and respectfully and expressing your thoughts and emotions effectively. FDR is future focussed so it is important to keep looking forward at how things can be changed/improved rather than dwelling on the events of the past.
5. FDR can be emotional and difficult, so consider seeking support from a counsellor, therapist or trusted friend or family member.
6. Be Open Minded – Remember that FDR is a process of negotiation and compromise. Be willing to listen to the other party’s perspective and consider different solutions.
7. Consider the needs and ages and stages of development of your children and how any changes to their current routines may impact them.
Remember that the FDRP’s role is to remain impartial – we are not here to act as judge and jury and will not take sides nor give advice. Our goal is to give you the opportunity to have an open, transparent & confidential discussion about your unique situation & your issues in dispute. We want you to feel safe and supported and will adjust the process to ensure that any fear & anxiety around the process is minimized.
For further information, please contact me for a free initial consultation on 0416 755 082 or via email on info@shfms.com.au
